When two girls are friends and they both like the same guy that is the number one sign that "Sisters before misters" rule will get broke. 99% chance that the main reasons those two girls found each other is because they both hated seeing their Prince Charming with someone that wasn't them so they will bond closely and stay tight for sometime. Sadly at some point one of them will drift away and will do something they regret.
Here is somethings that I think will help:
- Notice if your crush is becoming an obsession
- Try your hardest no matter how impossible it seems to think not just about yourself in crush situations.
- Believe and know in both heart and mind that your friend doesn't want to steel your crush they just also have a crush and want a chance with him too.
- You guys are friends and you should try to focus on each other rather than the boy even though it may seem impossible.
Even though right now some of you may be thinking, that's easier said then done if you pick each number and for one full week push yourself to do that you will find it to get easier. Note, you have to constantly do it every month every week, alternate 1,2,3,4 or maybe 3,1,2,4 whatever order you do it in stay consistent.
Well say that something does slip out and you do tell a guy something you shouldn't have, try to mend it with your voice rather than with texts or technology. Go up to the person you hurt and try to work things out. If you find yourself to scared to to it verbally and you have to do it behind technology make it a nice, sweet, sincere apology. Speak straight form the heart and say things that you would want to hear if your places were reversed. Try to lay it on thick with lots of sugar on it. If that doesn't work leave them a voice mail that explains why you did what you did, but say it truthfully. Why, truthfully? Why, is because you have already lost their trust and they should know you well enough to know when you are lying.
Stated below is the best thing to do;
Even when them forgiving you seems dim and feels like it's floating out of reach just be nice to them tell the truth, even if you have 3 billion times before, and if they need it give them space. You have to understand that they will gossip about you to their and your close friends and tell them what happened. If that does happen the best thing to do is to tell the people she tells your TRUE side of the story of what happened and allow them to think about both sides. Under every single circumstance do not curse, swear, blame, defend, or give them hate that will only heat the fire and make things worse for yourself I promise. Even when you want to defend yourself because they are gossiping don't things will die away. Stick to the truth and everything will fall back together.
No matter what remember that they are your friends and that they care about you even when they give you hate. Both of you are only human so it is only natural, even when all light goes out. They may act like totally jerks, (along with another word), but they still truly care about you otherwise they wouldn't have done all that. They know that isn't something you would usually do or say. Since we are all humans that are learning and finding our own road a few stumbles is natural. As long as you can get back up on your feet, brush off the dirt, put a smile on your face, look yourself in the and say, "I am beautiful, smart, amazing and will be the best person I can be today." With confidence you will achieve everything you want to do. When ever you get sad look yourself in the mirror and say that to you even if it makes you feel dorky. Just trust that things will work out it helps and if you need to write about it.
Best of Luck,
Friend Advice 101
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